Well said. Regardless of people admit or not, none wants to make their own life harder when work is already stressful enough. This also goes into Amazon LP “earning trusts”. Yes you may deliver faster than most, but do you earn trusts upward, downward and among peers
I think it comes down to people are humans, and humans are irrational.
They want to work with people who make their life better. And they're gonna gravitate towards that... even if you are the best performer in the world...
Vivian, it reminded me of Sun Tzu "The supreme art of war is to subdue the enemy without fighting." — It's not worth it to ship something faster if you are going to leave a trail of fire behind you. Bring your team and peers up with you, that's what big leaders do.
Well said as a reader relatively esrly in their career. This article definitely reminds me of an overarching thesis from "How to Win Friends and Influence people" of "you want to make the other person feel like they matter and get value out from being around you". Give and get go in tango!
Thank you for your post Sally! Being low maintenance is definitely something I still need to work on. Regarding your specific story, I wonder if there's another takeaway here: It didn't look good on your manager to give you negative feedback in public, and it didn't look good when you argued back in public too. The other attendees in that 10-person meeting might have felt very awkward that the working time of 10 people was being spent on a conversation that should have been private in the first place. Thanks again, and I look forward to your future posts!
Well said. Regardless of people admit or not, none wants to make their own life harder when work is already stressful enough. This also goes into Amazon LP “earning trusts”. Yes you may deliver faster than most, but do you earn trusts upward, downward and among peers
Totally agreed, Vivian.
I think it comes down to people are humans, and humans are irrational.
They want to work with people who make their life better. And they're gonna gravitate towards that... even if you are the best performer in the world...
Vivian, it reminded me of Sun Tzu "The supreme art of war is to subdue the enemy without fighting." — It's not worth it to ship something faster if you are going to leave a trail of fire behind you. Bring your team and peers up with you, that's what big leaders do.
Well said as a reader relatively esrly in their career. This article definitely reminds me of an overarching thesis from "How to Win Friends and Influence people" of "you want to make the other person feel like they matter and get value out from being around you". Give and get go in tango!
Yeah, I think it comes down to the value you provide has to outweigh the cost!
Can’t agree more! Handling critical feedback is hard but an important skill!
Thank you for your post Sally! Being low maintenance is definitely something I still need to work on. Regarding your specific story, I wonder if there's another takeaway here: It didn't look good on your manager to give you negative feedback in public, and it didn't look good when you argued back in public too. The other attendees in that 10-person meeting might have felt very awkward that the working time of 10 people was being spent on a conversation that should have been private in the first place. Thanks again, and I look forward to your future posts!
That's an interesting insight, thank you for sharing, Minh!