Your boss isn't thinking about you
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This session unpacks how the best managers help their people Glow, Grow, Get things done and Go their own way, turning them into veritable talent magnets.
Particularly relevant in this era where external hiring has slowed down, and your reputation as a people leader can make or break your ability to attract strong internal talent.
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Your boss isn't thinking about you.
Most of us spend a lot of time imagining that our managers and others are thinking about us and our performance.
In actuality, the majority are busy thinking about themselves and imagining who is judging them, exactly like you are.
Do you know the first thing your boss thinks of when they think of "You?"
They think of how what you are doing, good or bad, reflects on them, and if they need to do anything to further protect or enhance how they are perceived.
We all want our leaders and peers to think about us as people. Our careers, our goals, our struggles. And some bosses do eventually think about this. They invest in us and help us grow.
But this is NOT their first or most common thought.
Want to test my theory?
Ask yourself how often when you think of your boss your first thought is "How can I help them?"
Compare that to how many times you think something like "I wonder if they will notice what I just did and be glad/mad?"
Bosses who think of themselves first are not evil, they are human; they are just like us.
We all tend to think constantly of ourselves and how we are perceived.
The value of realizing how we all think is threefold.
We can relax about being constantly judged.